LOVE

My husband and I were privileged to care for both of our mothers as they completed life’s journeys. Although at separate times, and in different circumstances, there were similarities. One of our mothers had dementia, and one had problems of a different kind. Each situation brought joys and sorrows, frustrations and fears, questions and doubts. And, given the chance, we would do it all over again.

In each case we wanted to live out the Scriptural principle: “Honor thy father and thy mother,” but sometimes it was hard to know what was most honoring. We wanted to show our love for them in demonstrable and practical ways, but again, what was most loving? Love given is not always love received.

Perhaps as you have tried to love others, you have encountered resistance which has surprised you because you, to the best of your ability, were acting in love. If we want to follow the example of the greatest teacher who ever walked on the face of the earth, we will love – even when it is hard – even when it is not well received or reciprocated – even when is it inconvenient.

Jesus said it this way: “A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another. By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another” John 13:34-35 (NIV).  And He loved … all the way to the cross … laying down His life. So, when love makes demands on our time, our schedule, our plans, our desires … if we are misunderstood, rebuffed, or criticized, we must love. Because ultimately, we do it for Him, the One who knows us best and loves us most.

Love,

Ruth

If you are interested in reading about my caregiving experience as my mother completed her journey, my book, Bringing Mother Home, is available now on Amazon. You can find a link to it on my book page.